... and there will be consequences for being honest and outspoken.
I'm probably going to piss off every single one of you at some point- so for everything past, present, and future I will say in advance... sorry you feel that way.
I've made mistakes jumping to conclusions, as everyone else has. If I'm wrong, shame on me and do tell me that I am so. Human beings need to get a good psychological kick in the ass now and then to become better people. But when truth about real problems is attacked by delusional and irrational thought shame on those people- greater shame on those who try to make truth sayers out to be the enemy of wellbeing.
As a former casino worker I've seen what addictive behavior can do to not just the addict but their friends and loved ones. Most of them blame everyone but themselves for being up to their eyeballs in debt. Even if you tell them flat out: "Stop spending so much money!" they'll use every defense in the book (or ones off the top of their head that are so ridiculous you cannot come up with a dignified response to it) to justify their impulsive behavior.
Now, I cannot force others to change. It's their business, it's their money, it's their life... fine.
But in my personal little corner of the world, where I'm entitled to voice my opinion about things, I'm going to say with little reserve that I hate gambling. Does that mean I hate gamblers? No. I actually have very close friends that are gamblers. I may cringe if they tell me how much they've lost, but it won't make me love them as people less. I would want them to have better control over their spending habits- that's not being hateful, it's being concerned... there's nothing wrong with being concerned.
If someone is so enraged by how I feel about a serious problem that they want to totally block me off forever... well that's fine. I'm not going to suddenly change my mind or apologize for stating facts that can be crucial eye-openers to others. Addictions, of any sort, are hazardous. That's the truth, whether you want to stick your head in the sand and ignore it until it's too late to reverse the damaging consequences or not. It's common among us flawed human beings, but NOT okay and to embrace self-destruction as a virtue and kick someone down that managed to overcome it is the REAL shame.
Do I feel sad about it? Of course I do. Does it bother me that denial and pride can be so strong that I am made to feel like the bad guy for voicing concern? A little, but I remain where I stand on the issue because it's freaking true. Sorry that I side with good choices.